a girl suddenly called up and claim shes my husband ex-gf?
prior to her calling my husband cellfone, we bumped into her in the shopping mall and they just smiled and greeted each other without any malice, my husband said he met her and her brother in a holiday vacation and her brother thinks they were friends with my hubby and he swore to me she was just an aquaintance he met on vacation….then 2 months later, she called up my husband cellfone and it was me who answered.. she said she just wanna say hi and how are u to my husband.. when i asked her if shes the one we met on the mall, she said yes and also added shes my husband ex-gf and told me not to worry cuz she has found someone new already. she told me with urgency to give the fone to my husband,so i did and they talked while i listened and i specifically told my husband to ask her why she said she was an ex-gf but the short conversation ended and he never asked it in front of me although he swore and object that she was lying..why he didnt ask it in front of me so i would know for sure.
then several months later, while fixing my husband dvd collection, i saw a copy of video of that same woman and her girlfriends in my husband hotel bedroom where he stays during his vacation more than 2 years ago.. they were sitting there in his bed comfortably and he was filming them and one of the girl’s friend saying goodbye to him and hoping he will have a safe trip back home.. he complimented and called my husband handsome and he said ”youre a beautiful woman too”.. this all happened when we have not met yet so is there a reason for me to worry? is he lying to me..why he didnt debunk the girl claims on the fone while im listening to their fone conversation???
13. August 2006 at 7:32 am :
Ask him how did she get his cell phone number?
14. August 2006 at 10:50 pm :
mayb its just tt they hadn’t seen each other for a long time tts y. dun worri too much casue it seemed like your husband doesn’t want their relationship to be more than just meer friends :]
15. August 2006 at 8:31 pm :
She is trying to lure him away from you.
17. August 2006 at 10:36 am :
He wouldn’t ask in front of you because either way he would have been embarrased.
If they never went out, it’s funny that now that he’s married he asks.
If they did go out, then he’s caught red handed of lying.
Explain to your husband that you trust him. However, obviously this girl has an issue. She either went out with him or likes to believe she did. Good for her, she now has an official boyfriend and good for your husband he’s now married so there’s no need to rekindle that friendship.
18. August 2006 at 7:47 am :
Give your husband the benefit of the doubt.. She might have thought the relationship was more then it ever was.. Either way it was in the past.. let it go…
19. August 2006 at 1:16 am :
He is cheating on you and he is seeing her now behind your back. Sorry for hurting your feelings but you aren’t seeing this for yourself. But, it is very obvious.
22. August 2006 at 9:30 am :
someones lying i would watch your husband and i would check his cellphone and i would tell the little tramp to stay away from my husband and i would tell him that i feel like there is more to this story and she had better never call again
24. August 2006 at 5:12 pm :
that’s a very hard situation..
maybe the girl just need something to u.. money?.. i actually don’t know..
25. August 2006 at 1:48 pm :
Wow - babygal Ive lost the plot.
Tell him BooYaa.
26. August 2006 at 10:46 am :
well, I would not have given the phone to my husband, she has no reason to talk to him… she can fight her own battles now, whatever the “urgency was”…pffft… … if she is supposedly w/ someone… she should not be calling him… I would have told her to buzz off and never call again… that’s what I would have done… I’d watch him from now on though to see if he’s the cheating type, and if he is, leave…cheating now a days can kill someone…(sexual diseases can cause cancer) !!! … usually there is some truth to lies… good luck… in my opinion spouses should not go on vacation separately, ever… it causes temptation…! also… he should not be telling anyone else they are beautiful…!!! =(… boy, I’d be irrate at this point and would just leave him… =(… I just read back and saw that you found a video… =(…
26. August 2006 at 11:48 pm :
Don’t spoil the present by probing too much into the past. Just make sure she doesn’t come back to his life. Even if she was an ex gf of your husband, he might have lied because he wanted you to be with him and happy. Think about that.
27. August 2006 at 3:25 am :
The second name of marriage is TRUST. Be cool and and talk to your husban and tell him you are concerned and would like to know the whole story and he has nothing to worry if past is past, but the present should not be compromised.
29. August 2006 at 4:34 am :
Don’t too worry about their relation. she was just an ex-gf, and has new boy friend and also ur husband has u now in marriage life. I can say like that bcz my husband was play boy before we married n a lot of ex-gf n some of them still call my husband but i believe him also i know that he faithful to me, so i don’t fell worry about ther relation
1. September 2006 at 1:42 am :
You know what? Ignore this incident. I assure you you have your hubby by your side and if this girl calls again take down her number and warn her to stay away or you will sue her for trying to alienate yourself and your husband.
Remember you have the upper hand. Your husband clearly loves you - he is with you and if you love him as I am sure you do or you would not be so mad at this woman, then you go all out to show him respect and love regardless of this woman and what she proposes. Personally I think she is lying to you and deliberately causing you trouble in your marriage. THere are some nasty and spiteful people around who feel nothing about wrecking other marriages. THey are insensitive, but heres the good news….what she is sowing she will reap. THe good old wheel definitely turns and it will turn on her too!
You have your husband right by your side. You know what his likes and dislikes are. Concentrate on those very things and DO NOT let the seed of doubt destroy the good thing you have. Besides did he have a momentory fling, he certainly has not pursued it has he, obviously he loves you and you must be doing something right. Keep on being you and turn a deaf ear to this and tell him it hurts you that this girl is interfering and would he consider cutting her off completely and maybe even go as far as changing his cellular number!
Tell him you love him and respect him and trust him not to mess around - its all or nothing! He has to make a choice and its not going to be you and the other woman. Its you and thats it! Tell him if there was something you are glad he chose you and thank him and say you trust there will never be any repeats of this again. I am sure he has learnt a huge lesson. I dont think its right for men to have women friends when attached to a wife. It is not healthy at all.
Now you be creative and loving and respectful and push away any doubts you have and go and have the rest of your life with the man you love and keep wotking on your marriage. We all have to. Keep the homefires burning but see to it that you always respect him.
God bless you both.
Get the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs - it is brilliant and will help you a lot.
3. September 2006 at 5:53 pm :
Honey, do YOU love your husband? Is it worth fighting for him? Do you have a good life together?
Show him that choosing you was the best choice for him!
Then everything else can be solved. Even if he cheated once or twice… (men do, you know!) I would play it the other way around: make HIM a little jealous! Make yourself pretty, buy some new things, add some “salt and pepper” to your… life. Marriage can get a little booooring… Fight that! Sparkle and and shine and be as kind as you can
5. September 2006 at 2:36 am :
JJ,
If you want a frank answer, then, I think your husband lied to you about the girl that he does not know why she told she was his girl friend. Remember she was in the video and he never told you about it even when this girl reappeared. He did not tell you that, he just told you about the casual meeting at the mall, right? So, answer to one of your questions is yes, he had lied to you. Now, it was before your wedding, so, you could grant him that. So, leave the issue of he lying to you. I respect your trust and confidence in him when you handed over the phone to him and also when you did not think further on the issue until you saw the dvd. I also regard you for the courage with which you presented the situation to all and asked for suggestions. Now, you love him a lot. I am not sure whether he is doing something behind your back, there is a chance. But you can save the situation by asking it straight. You can do like this. Tell him you are worried a bit about this incident and what the girl told over the phone as she was his ex GF. You tell him that you love him and trust him absolutely and you believe what he says. But you are asking just once before you want to forget this incident for ever whether there was anything more to that relation or whether she has met him anytime recently other than at the mall. Dont blame or accuse or any such thing, just plainly ask. Take what he says and then move on. If at all there is anything more to it, it will surface again. Then you know what to do because you had already asked it straight.
Take care.
all the wishes..
6. September 2006 at 7:46 am :
I wouldn’t worry. My husband has old girlfriends track him down from time to time. This is what happens when you marry a man who is attractive and desirable. I don’t like it when they call, however I don’t worry about it either. I know he loves me and that they just call to see if there is still something there for them. There isn’t. The fact that he lied to you about it wasn’t good……who knows why….I would ask him. He probably didn’t want to talk about it.
7. September 2006 at 10:52 am :
You are young and dumb. Relax. All this is normal. Here are some facts of life that will help you make future choices in life:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want honest answers from a man that doesn’t
lie anymore.
9. September 2006 at 4:18 pm :
do u really have to ask?
11. September 2006 at 7:01 pm :
2 yrs ago that tape was from.. how long have you been married??